Thursday, November 21, 2013

Finding Peace in the Unknown

Dear Friends and Family,

I apologize for not keeping you more updated as to my health status.  However, life has been very full and this is the last thing that I have wanted to focus on.  But now as things are beginning to develop, I feel that I need to take you back a little and let you know the status of my health.  I will do that by including two update letters about my health.  One was written on 30 October 2013 and the other is written today, 21 November 2013.

30 October 2013

I went to the doctor today and had what will probably be my last infusion of the drug “Avastin” which is very sad news to me.  I have been receiving this drug every 3 week for almost 2 years.  I was told that I could be on this drug indefinitely, until the cancer came back.  I guess that time has finally come.

Here is a quick recap of my medical situation.  There is a blood test that they use as a tumor marker to determine if you have cancer.  It is called a CA-125.  Normal range is 0-35.  When I was first diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer stage IV in September of 2011, my CA-125 was 687.  On October 3, 2011 I then had a debulking surgery which included a radical hysterectomy, spleenectomy, 5 ½ “ of my bowels, 2 ½ “ of my diaphragm, and my peritoneal wall. After surgery my CA-125 numbers went to 350. 

At that time I qualified for a clinical trial and I started Chemotherapy on November 16, 2011.  At that same time I also started this experimental drug called, “Avastin”.  The trial that I was drawn for was to have chemo every week using a dose-dense amount (smaller dose of drug on a more frequent basis).  Usually chemo treatments are every 3 weeks for 6 different times.  But with this trial I started having chemo every week up until the 12th week when the neuropathy in my feet became a stage 2.  I was pulled off that part of the trial hoping the neuropathy would get better, but it didn't.  So I finished with the traditional way with the last 2 sets of chemo (3 weeks apart).  My last day of chemo was the day after my 10th grandchild was born, March 24, 2012.  However, I have continued having Avastin every 3 weeks since then.

Since that point I have been doing so well.  I have been incredibly blessed with energy and strength.  My quality of life is something I never dreamed I would have after my surgery and chemo.  I can’t believe the things I've been able to do and enjoy and I consider it a miracle from the Lord that I've had this time to enjoy.

After my surgery and once I started chemo, my CA-125 numbers started to go down consistently.  First to 165 then on down until it was a 10 in January of 2013.  We were thrilled.  Remember normal is 0-35.  Then I went to Vegas to help my daughter move and during that same time we were planning for a wedding in March.  I made 22 skirts for my daughter’s wedding and was amazed at the strength and energy I had to do all of this.  However, my numbers started to increase to 27 and then 53 and then 60.   Then the next 3 weeks they miraculous went down to 48.  Then I was in charge of a big reunion and they went up to 58 in June.  And then miraculous they went down to 43 in August.  In September they went up to 62 and then 3 weeks ago they continued going up to 82. 

I felt like I was living on a roller coaster.  Up and down, up and down.  It’s no fun having to live your life by numbers!  When I heard 82 I was in shock.  It was supposed to be time to come down again, but it didn't.  We fasted, prayed and I received a blessing three days ago.  In the blessing Craig blessed me that I would have peace and calmness.  He also used the same words that our Stake President used in a blessing he had given me about 18 months ago.  He told me that “my days are not numbered.” 

I have had peace and calmness, even as I went to my appointment today.  Not until right before they handed me the paper with my new CA-125 on it, did I start feeling knots in my stomach.  The nurse that handed me the paper was really kind.  She said in as sweet a voice as possible, “Your numbers have gone up quite a bit since last time.”  Then she handed me the paper.  I glanced at it and read the numbers 112.7.  All I could say was, “Wow!”  I’m glad no one said the numbers out loud.  I think that was easier for me to handle. 

I walked out of the clinic feeling like someone had just punched me in the stomach.  Here I was hoping for a miracle that my numbers would go down again, but they didn't.  It was starting to rain as I walked to my car.  I just felt numb.  I sat in my car for quite a while.  I felt like crying, but nothing would come out.  Finally a tear or two dropped from my eyes and then it was over.  Why cry over this?  Everything is in the Lord’s hand anyway.  Nothing I can do will change the outcome.  What I've got to do is to learn to accept the Lord’s will and make the best of the time I have left.  But that doesn't mean that I will ever give up hoping to be able to stay around as long as possible. 

So what is the next step?  I’m not exactly sure.  I was told that once I had 2 consecutive CA-125 tests over 70, that I would be kicked off the trial.  That just happened today, but the lady from the trial was not there to confirm it.  I’m sure when she sees my latest test, that she will call and let me know that it’s over.  So where does that leave me then…still in the care of my wonderful oncologist, Dr. Wallentine.  He has been taking care of me through all of this anyway.  He is not one to jump to conclusions too fast and I am grateful for that.

They just called and scheduled me for another CT Scan on Monday, November 4th.  Even though my numbers on the CA-125 test have gone up, my last CT scan still showed N.E.D. (No Evidence of Disease) which is good.  So I’m thinking that the doctor will gauge when I have to start chemo again by when there is new evidence of disease in my CT scan.  Hopefully that won’t happen for a while, and would be especially nice to wait until the holidays are all over.  However, I just talked to Kathy my nurse and she said that since I had the debulking surgery, that there is no tumor that they are watching at this point.  She said that my numbers are showing a pattern, probably indicating that the cancer is coming back somewhere.  The CA-125 blood test can detect cancer earlier before the eye can see it.  However, that same blood test is also known for going up for other things such as infection, virus, and endometriosis and such. 

It’s been interesting that the last month or so, I have felt very compelled to have a grandma date with every one of my grandchildren. I have made sure to document each of those dates with pictures and journal entries, not only for myself, but for their memory after I’m gone.  I’m started taking a Family History class in September and we have an amazing teacher named Ann Lewis.  She had us raise our hands and commit to writing 8 minutes a day in our journal for the next 4 months.  I am so grateful for this challenge.  It has helped me to correct my priorities and has seemed to help me focus on what is really important.  By writing every day, it has been kind of like a return and report system of what I am doing with my life.

I’m not saying I’m going to die right now, but I can’t help but know that it is definitely a possibility in the not too distant future. How do you live your life with that hanging over your head?  It’s harder than you can imagine.  Everyone thinks that if they knew they were going to die that they would automatically choose the most important things in life, things that have eternal consequences.  And that is what I am trying to do too, but life so often gets in the way; like cooking, cleaning, phone calls, emails, serving and just being.

So let me end on a positive note.  I’m so grateful for the Plan of Salvation!  What a comfort it should be for every one of us.  Knowing that we can all be together forever is such a comfort.  I’m also grateful for a loving Heavenly Father who is aware of me and knows what is best for me, even when I don’t.  What a blessing it is to have a Savior who has felt and experienced every feeling of pain, sorrow, and sadness we may feel with each of our unique situations.  I’m so grateful for the gift he gave each of us of being able to be resurrected to a perfect body.  I’m grateful that I still have a body, even in the condition it is in and the fact that I can still function and serve is so amazing to me.  I will not give up!  I’ll keep fighting just like everyone else would.  I've heard of people staying alive from chemotherapy to chemotherapy and prayers and miracles.  So whatever it takes, I’m in it for the long haul.  You haven’t seen the last of me!!!

Thank you for your continued prayers,

Michele Garvin


4 Nov. 2013 – update – They had me have another CT Scan today.  It also came back NED.  However, they have scheduled an appointment for Craig and me to meet with my doctor on the 21st to discuss what protocol he wants to do now, since I am officially off the trial.  My nurse thinks that he will want to start chemo right away.  

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